I am currently 32 years old. My father spent 24 of my 32 years of living in prison-maximum security. I felt fatherless with deep rooted pain, hurt and hate. I was destroying myself by holding on to those emotions and realized I had to let it go. So, I forgave my father and forgave myself. Our relationship isn't perfect, but I love him for who he is now, not who he was then.
Forgiveness Challenge/ Q&A
Q: How were you able to forgive?
A: I was able to forgive using one powerful key- focus on self
Q: What does it mean to focus on self?
A: It means you value the worth of who you are more than the pain the other person caused. Forgiveness is the ultimate act of kindness you can give yourself. Forgiveness is like decadent treats to the soul and emotional wealth to the spirit.
3 STEPS TO LETTING GO
1. Acknowledge the hurt and the person(s) who hurt you fully by saying:
I acknowledge that ___________ (speak the person(s) name) hurt me when they _____________ (speak what they did).
2. Express what their actions did to you mentally and emotionally by saying:
When you ______________ (speak what they did) it made me feel ____________________ (speak how it made you feel)
3. Use your experience to become a better person by saying:
Even though _______________ (speak person(s) name) did _______________ (speak what they did) I will not let that define who I am. I am strong, courageous and worthy of living a happy life. I forgive you for ______________ (speak what they did) and I let it go.
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