Maybe Marriage Does Have a Happy Formula
After a study claimed couples who went to bed starkers are more likely to stay together, here's a look at other magic formulae to last.
They say the couple who plays together, stay together but now researchers say the best way to keep a happy marriage is to sleep in the nude. A study conducting among more than 1,000 British couples found 57% of those who go to bed starkers said they were happy in their relationship compared to 48% who wore pyjamas.
Bedding, say, experts, can feel extremely soft against the skin, encouraging openness and intimacy between couples and ultimately increasing happiness.
And, they're not the only ones who think they have the recipe for lasting and happy marriage.
From separate beds and bathrooms to arguing and sex, everyone has their own theory. Here are a few:
Double date: It seems double dating could equal double the happiness after scientists found the key to a long and happy marriage is having another couple to share it with.
Psychologists at the University of Maryland found double dating helps couples interact and even learn more about themselves. Study chief Professor Geoffrey Greif said Couples with couple friends seem to have happier relationships and longer and happier marriages. But double dating does have its perils.
He added We interviewed a few people were couple friends ended up having an affair.
Separate bathrooms: Dynasty star Joan Collins has been married five times so she's something of an expert on the subject.
The 81-year-old says, There are rules for living with Joan Collins, but I'm sure there are rules for living with anyone. We're never in the bathroom together.
In fact, I think it's important to have separate bathrooms. And she advises couples not to interfere with each other's lives. On fifth husband Percy Gibson, she says, He never interferes with my social calendar.
I never interfere with his financial work. I occasionally give him advice on how he looks, but he's the least vain man I've ever known. We know fashion consultant Sabina Chopra will agree with this one. In a recent interview to Mumbai Mirror, she admitted, Distance between two people doesn't necessarily mean that they don't enjoy each other.
No offence to men in general, but they are terrible in bathrooms.
Like their smell: Hollywood actress Goldie Hawn, 68, has been with her partner Kurt Russell, 63, for three decades but she isn't one for magic formulae and thinks a happy relationship simply comes down to your nose. She explains, There's a trick.
You have to like the way each other smell. I think it's that the pheromones haven't gone away. The chemicals are still popping. And she adds You don't always agree with your mate. You don't even like them sometimes. But there is something there that sparks you. You have to focus on that as you move on.
Choose separate beds: What with duvet hogging and snoring, it's no surprise sleeping in separate beds is key to a good nights sleep but it could also work wonders on your marriage.
We've been sold a myth that we have to share a bed or else our marriage is doomed. But people who are more tired are more miserable and have a higher rate of divorce.
Hollywood's quirkiest couple, Tim Burton and Helena Bonham Carter don't sleep in the same bed. In fact, they live in separate adjoining houses because Burton is said to snore.
Argue: This one's simple: If any couple tells you they never argue, they're lying. Arguing is healthy.
Have sex thrice a week: The secret to a perfect marriage is having sex three times a week and enjoying seven cuddles during that time, according to a US study.
The study of 1,000 married couples also included kissing 10 times a week, cuddling up in front of the TV six times a month and 10 meaningful conversations a month were among the other things that contribute to wedded bliss.