Back-door Coupling – Playing it Safe on the Flip Side

For many individuals, back-door coupling is a mysterious, unexplored frontier. It seems that within our Western culture – as well as many, many other areas of the world, back-door coupling is often considered taboo.  To many, it may feel “forbidden” or “dirty” because of the nature of the act, and can be met with resistance by one or both partners.  However, for individuals wanting to explore this final intimate frontier, they need not experience shame or guilt; but they certainly should follow a few pointers to maximize their chances at pleasure without running into painful consequences.  Read on for more about back-door coupling and how to maintain a healthy male organ when engaging in this behavior.

Why is back-door coupling taboo?

Everybody has their own thoughts and preferences when it comes to intimate activity.  However, back-door coupling seems to get a bad rap more than other positions and activities.  This may be because many people feel that is an “exit only.”  Men and women alike may be nervous about uncleanliness, coming into contact with fecal matter and transmitting infection and disease.  Additionally, back-door coupling often carries a particular stigma among males. Combine that with the high likelihood of a painful experience if not performed correctly, and many people choose to have very limited – if any – exploration with back-door coupling.

Is it dangerous?

The biggest risk that back-door coupling entails is tearing of the rectal tissue. This risk is enhanced when the giver is overzealous with thrusting speed and depth of entry – and it can occur whether a male organ, finger or toy is inserted rectally.  Additionally, there is a risk of infection being passed between partners if cleanliness is not a priority, and especially if latex barriers are not used properly.  Lastly, because of the higher chance of rectal tearing, the chance of disease transmission is higher if one partner is infected.

Tips for Safe Back-door coupling:

1. Go slow! The rectum is not as receptive to visitors as, say, the female canal or the mouth, so it is imperative that anything that is inserted is done slowly, so as to not tear the tissue.

2. Use lots of lube: Both partners need to be adequately lubed, and additional lube should be applied as needed.  The rectum does not create lubrication like the female canal, so the more the better.  Seriously, use a lot.

3. The receiver is in charge: A surefire way to stop the exploration is to cause pain to whichever partner is receiving rectal pleasure.  The receiver dictates speed, depth and quality of the experience to prevent sharp pains and tearing.

4. If it hurts, stop: Try to relax during back-door coupling and enjoy the sensations. It should not hurt at all.  If it is painful, the thrusting is too deep, too fast, or not enough lube is being used.  Anxiety and nerves can also stop muscles from relaxing and cause pain; and if a partner doesn’t really want it – it’s probably not going to happen very easily!

5. Always, Always, ALWAYS use a latex barrier: There are likely to be traces of fecal matter in the rectum – though it is not as dirty as most individuals would believe.  A latex barrier prevents bacteria from entering the male organ and protects the receiver from any infections the giver is carrying. Because there is a chance of tearing, and thus rectal bleeding, the risk of blood born infections is higher during back-door coupling – therefore the importance of a latex barrier cannot be overemphasized.

6. Communication is key: Because of the risk of pain, partners need to be in communication with each other about their actions.  Thus—talking needs to happen! Many couples find that back-door coupling increases intimacy simply because they need to verbalize their wants and needs to their partner!

7. Be hygienic: Nothing that has touched the rectum should touch the female canal or mouth unless it has been thoroughly washed (i.e., toys, a finger, or a male organ).  If switching between entries, so to speak, a new barrier needs to be used, hands washed and toys washed, as any E. coli that is present could cause a urinary tract infection, or worse. It is also a good idea to take a shower before back-door coupling –and afterward, as well, to clean up the entire body. To further protect the male organ, men should use a male organ health creme after relations, and every day, to further enhance the health of their Johnson (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil); a high-quality formula not only rejuvenates the skin, but also contains vitamin A to help fight infection causing bacteria. Apply after every shower to keep the male organ healthy and clean. 

For additional information on most common male organ health issues, tips on improving male organ sensitivity, and what to do to maintain a healthy male organ, visit: John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous online web sites.