Many companies give employees annual scheduled evaluations and use those to improve outcomes. What about parent evaluations? How is that measured? Parenting Expert Doctor G (Deborah Gilboa, MD) of AskDoctorG.com says ask kids to rate how the family is doing.
Following are guidelines parents should consider:
Set the ground rules. Kids need to know what parents are talking about and why.
- Start your ideas with “I” not “you” “he” or “she.”
- “We are talking about relationships and communication.”
- “We are not talking about money, possessions, or paying for stuff.”
- “We are looking for ways we can all feel stronger.”
- “We are not looking for criticism of a person, only ways to improve behavior and communication.”
For preschool and elementary kids, ask questions similar to ones they’ve heard at school.
- “On a scale of 1-10, how are we doing as a family?”
- “What 3 or 4 words do you think of when you think of our family?”
- “What are the 3 hardest things about being in our family? What are the 3 best things?”
For middle and high school kids, be really clear.
- “What would you like to be different in our family? What would you like to stay the same?
- “What do we do that hurts you? What do we do that helps you?”
- “What do you wish you did better in our family? What are you great at doing?
The end-of-year-review can work both ways. Kids critique parents, parents critique kids. “This really only works when parents tell their kids what they need and how they could feel more supported too,” says Doctor G. “Otherwise parents aren’t giving their children respect or responsibility,” continues Doctor G.
To learn more parenting tips from Doctor G and other leading parenting experts, visit one of Parenting Expo’s (www.parentingexpo.com) 2014 venues. Parenting Expo is the one event that is all about parenting. A two-day family-friendly event, parents, grandparents, caregivers and educators will have an opportunity to receive up-to-date information on what’s important to them right now – from prenatal care to raising teens. In addition, attendees will walk away with meaningful coupons, giveaways, goody bags full of products from exhibitors, and opportunities to win prizes throughout the expo.
Parenting Expo is slated for 5 cities in 2014:
- Pittsburgh: March 8 – 9, 2014 Monroeville Convention Center
- Cleveland: April 26 – 27, 2014 International Exposition (IX) Center
- Columbus: August 16 – 17, 2014 The Greater Columbus Convention Center
- Cincinnati: September 20 – 21, 2014 The Duke Energy Convention Center
- Indianapolis: October 25 – 26, 2014 Indiana Convention Center